hi
i am doing OK. some days i’m doing great, feel like i’m getting there. other days i feel i’m slipping back into the woods. but overall i’m progressing slowly in the right direction, and i’m managing.
what helps:
drugs: pizotifen has helped a LOT, i’m 6 months in. soon to start adding in gabapentin.
i measure my progress: i have a chart (actually an xl spreadsheet) that i mark all my symptoms and my functionality on scores out of ten, morning and evening. it’s quite detailed. it’s important to mark the functionality too - because some days i feel like sh*t but i go for a swim and do the shopping and although my symptoms feel bad, if they are not preventing me from doing stuff and i can exercise and complete tasks, then that gets a good mark too. over time, you can really see your progress. like a few months ago i would struggle to make phone calls for work because of the terrible tinnitus. now i can make phone calls easily, and the tinnitus is in the background. progress. it also let me tell the doctor that i am making progress, but it’s very slow. i’m still having 4-5 bad days a week, same number of bad days as a few months ago, but the bad days are not as severe. it helps with the treatment. and if you become interested in your symptoms, they become less scary. you recognise them. and you learn what you can work with. like, oh today is about a 3 for photophobia, i’m going to need sunglasses… or today is a 6 for dizziness, i’m going to lie down and ride this one out.
Therapy: i had a few sessions with a cognitive behavioural therapist which really helped me to put it into perspective. an example: your brain starts filling with worry, anxiety, bad thoughts… imagine you’ve got on the wrong train. get off that train filled with worry thoughts, and get on a train full of constructive, rational thoughts. when the worries start, make yourself get off that train and get onto another. recognise your own behaviours and thought patterns… “what if something terrible happens…” becomes “well, what if it doesn’t”.
this website and others like it: you realise it’s actually an illness when you read other people with exactly the same problems and worries; and it’s not a terminal illness, just an unpleasant one.
accept the condition: i recognised that i am unwell and i tried to reorganise my life to allow myself the best chance to get better. i don’t try to be well, and to do all the things i’d do if i was well. i try to be realistic, changed to working from home (not easy, but managing) and i try to set myself little goals (first ride on the bicycle since i got MAV, first trip into the city alone, managing longer and longer drives, longer and longer walks, first round of golf, etc).
find things i CAN do and enjoy them: i can still eat and enjoy cooking and eating; i can read on my kindle no problem, i can now watch TV again (couldn’t bear to look at the screen for 4 months), i can help my kids with their homework, i can walk my kids to school (because i’m not on the train going to work), i can do some exercise (short swim, static bike, etc). if you can get a reasonable number of enjoyable things into each day, the days will look much less bleak.
hope some of this helps!