To try and navigate resentment, i found it helped to frame it for myself as "lack of understanding" and "lack of knowledge". I had to learn to make my self and the illness understood. I used pdf's of VEDA and other article's to make it more clear what this VM was all about. And i had to be very clear in my own communication, babysteps, repeat and rinse, were lines that helped me through this process.
The results vary with the characters of the people involved. But certainly for my partner, who did see how ill i used to get but had no idea how it felt or how it came about at first, and felt very "powerless" (must be a better word for that), it made a huge difference.
Educating oneself about this illness is only one part of it. Educating the circle of people around you is also very helpfull. Babysteps. Rinse and repeat.
After all these years i quietly and patiently still repeat some of them phrases.
It is just that the healthy people are all coming from such a different place, and frame of mind. And they need to switch a bit where i am involved, and they need a lil trigger or help to do so
There is only one more thing that may be very helpfull, if it is applying to you:
When one is resentfull oneself, or possibky another strong emotion very much related to resent (guild?), people around us tend to pick up on that, which happens subconsciously. And they may, again subconsciously trigger those feelings in us. It can become a circle, a dance.
I learmed that i better always also check what is in my heart of hearts, and whether the person who was acting resentfull, was maybe perhaps mirroring a bit of subconscious feelings i better work on and get resolved myself.
I find that after i resolved big parts of my feelings of guild, my apologeticness, my anger even (still working on that one), the emotional interactions with people around me improved greatly.
Goodluck and i wish you all the braveness in this world!